New Year’s Eve, and how my husband and I fell in love

Hello everyone!  I’ve been inspired to write the story of how my husband and I met, by my friend and fellow blogger Dippy-Dotty Girl.  Her wonderful travel blog is always a source of fun reading!

My husband and I have our wedding anniversary on New Year’s Eve (December 31st).  We picked that date for two reasons:  first, we are not really “party people,” so we figured that would impel us to go out at least once a year!, and second, it seemed an easy date to remember, so that neither of us would accidentally forget the date!  We did go out every Dec. 31st for several years after we got married – to New Year’s events, too!  And then we had kids, and it turns out that it’s hard to find a sitter on New Year’s Eve (hah!).  We’d usually go out the next day (New Year’s Day) and enjoy the time together anyway!

My husband and I fell in love because of Fortran.  That’s right, computer programming.  Back in the ’80s.  When you still had to use punch cards and run them through a reader to make the computer do something.  You’d make one small syntax error or typing mistake, and the computer would kick out the whole bunch and you’d have to start over.
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I was taking a computer programming class at the University and my husband, who was a computer programmer and had graduated a year or two before me, was a friend who offered to help me with my questions about Fortran. I had a lot of questions. I loved programming, but any new language, whether human or computer, is difficult to learn at first. I would work on my assignments, run into a problem, and I’d call him to ask for help.

My husband is an introvert.  And a computer programmer.  So, you can guess that he did not seem thrilled (from the outside) to be helping.  But I needed the help, and I really wanted to learn the language, so I persisted.  Only later, after my class was finished and I told him, “I won’t be bugging you with programming questions any more,” did I learn that he looked forward to hearing from me, that he was falling in love with me, and he didn’t want me to leave him alone!  Hah!
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Computers brought us together.  Later on, when we were dating “for real,” we even worked together to build our own computer from a kit, a Zenith.  I eventually got my degree from the University of Washington in mathematics and computer science, like my husband.  And I am fortunate that we have been together ever since.


Happy New Year’s, everyone!  I’m looking forward to reading more wonderful posts from everyone in the blogging community.  If you have seen my earlier posts about Looking Up and Looking Down, I have a couple of new photos to share.



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Photo by Theresa Barker.

Isn’t this a fun wall mural?  I saw this on the side of the 9th and Jefferson Building in downtown Seattle (part of Harborview Hospital), and I thought, I bet my blog readers would love to see this.  It’s a landscape made of stone – trees and hills on the left, boulders and ocean on the right.  A Pacific Northwest landscape in green and black stone.

What are those dozens of small circles below the wall?  Here’s a close-up.


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Photo by Theresa Barker.

Did you guess it?  It is the phases of the moon.  Intriguing!

Hope your year is starting out well.  Thanks for visiting!

36 thoughts on “New Year’s Eve, and how my husband and I fell in love

  1. This is such a lovely story of how you and your husband met. It is always hard to connect with introverts even if you are an introvert, because introverts like keeping to themselves and keeping quiet! So love it how he looked forward to helping you with programming – it was a way he could meet and chat with you without much fanfare or attention 🙂 I was wondering how you came to find out that your husband actually enjoyed these sessions with you after you told him you weren’t going to pester him anymore – maybe there is more to it. I’m guessing it wasn’t easy for him to say to you he enjoyed your company back then as an introvert. Personally, I already feel very nervy even thanking my amazing friends for, say, something simple like a glass of water or picking up something for me, lol. So telling someone you like them or making that known somehow must have been quite big of a deal.

    Happy anniversary to the two of you, and many more happy years to come together ❤

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    1. Ooh, good question, Mabel. It was more of a set of conversations, as I remember, where I at first apologized for taking up his time with my Fortran questions. And then he said something like, “It wasn’t a problem. In fact, I enjoyed it.” And then I thought, Oh, he enjoyed it? It didn’t look like it, but if he said he enjoyed it, wow. I could sense he was being honest, not just making up a line. And then we talked more, and spent more time together, and eventually I think it was actually me who first said, “I’m falling in love with you,” and he didn’t say anything for quite a long time. Then, “I think I am too.” I think it’s been all these years later, when we’ve talked about those times and he’s been able to tell me more about how he was feeling at the time, that I heard he was falling in love with me much earlier than he eventually expressed. Very perceptive, you are, Mabel! You were right in thinking it would have taken place over a much longer period than one conversation. 🙂


      1. I think that’s how love and a connection with someone builds – over time and conversation. It sort of sneaks up on you, like with you and your husband. Very brave of you to admit your feelings to your husband upfront. But, hey, it lead to a happy ending 🙂 ❤

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      2. Yeah, those are those heart-pounding moments when you put yourself out there and you’re not sure how the other person will react. He had given me some slight indications before I said it, like saying he liked to spend time with me, which (again) caught me by surprise, as it wasn’t indicated by his facial expression. It’s nice to know now, when he can tell me. He jokes about it actually, that he was kind of scared when I said I was falling in love with him, but that was because he realized he was feeling strong emotions too. You totally get it! 🙂

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  2. The stuff of fairy tales albeit new fairy tales – love over mathematics 😀 Not that I am in any position to cast stones for my story was over lab rats and dogs!!! 😉 A belated happy anniversary and many happy returns of the day 🙂 Loved the fun photos too.

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  3. Aw, what a sweet love story, my friend! It’s like a movie! 🙂 I know it’s very late but better than never…? Happy Anniversary! May you have many years together enjoying the world of computers, and even without. Hugs. xxx

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      1. Same here my friend. Maybe most first marriages are dry runs. 😁 Sorry for my super delayed response. New job. Exhausting and it leaves me empty but it’s enjoyable. I’m sure I’ll get used to it and I’ll be back properly. 😊🤗❤😘

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